#infertility with pcos

[onepinkline]

✨exciting news✨

Letrozole cycle April 2024 is happening!

I have so much hope for this cycle, everything feels like it’s lining up perfectly and I cannot wait to share every detail of what’s to come 🩷

We’re following a really strict diet/exercise/supplement regime this time around and I’ve been carefully reviewing all of my products for hormone imbalancing chemicals and replacing things as needed. I plan on doing a total detox before we start progesterone.

Good vibes, I feel it!

[pro-birth]

I really wish infertility were treated as a symptom of an underlying issue, rather than a condition of itself. It is often one of MANY health problem that accompanies reproductive disorders, and not all women with those disorders will experience infertility.

[ipsogender]

Mesosex

EDIT 2023-11-23: the term has been revised to:

Mesosex: a person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild", or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome.

Meso- for middle/in between, to refer to the state of being in between what the intersex community accepts as intersex and what the broader public (mistakenly) thinks intersex is.

More info on why the revision has happened: https://www.tumblr.com/ipso-faculty/734822362966540288?source=share

For archival purposes, this was the original post:

Mesosex: somebody who identifies with intersex people but not as intersex, and also feels perisex does not quite apply to them either. Meso- from Greek mesos (middle), to indicate that one feels in between having the intersex experience and the perisex experience. For example, people with reproductive disorders who feel they have common ground with intersex people but not so much common ground as to feel they are intersex.

There are conditions like PCOS and Poland Syndrome that exist on a spectrum from definitely intersex to perisex-ish, and I hope this term gives people on the perisex-ish side of the spectrum more useful word for themselves than the current language of "intersex-adjacent".

I want to be clear that people with conditions like PCOS and Poland Syndrome are completely entitled to call themselves intersex and that there is broad agreement within the intersex community that anybody with these conditions who feels they are intersex is intersex.

In coining this term I am hoping to validate and connect people who would otherwise call themselves perisex yet not feel it is quite accurate for them.

Mesosex people can have any gender, similar to how intersex people can have any gender.

In designing the flag our goal was to give an impression of something in between the intersex flag and cisperinormative gender colours whilst also including nonbinary people. The salmon background is chosen as a colour that is not quite pink, and the periwinkle ring is chosen for being not quite blue, but still reminiscent of the purple ring of the intersex flag. The white centre, put inside the purple-ish ring, is chosen to reflect how the nonbinary flag has white and purple in its middle.

The term and flag were workshopped with @scifimagpie. I had been thinking for a while that it would be useful to have a term for people who feel in between intersex and perisex, and these recent posts by @queercripintersex on identifying with rather than as not only convinced me there is actually an audience for such a term but also inspired me to get this done! PS. If you are questioning if you are intersex, check out this post by @intersex-support with a big list of intersex media, which you can use to get a sense on whether you resonate with intersex experiences. (Also check out their FAQ! And their past posts! They're really great!)

[theglowstickchronicles]

PCOS is my villain origin story

[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

How To Be a Safe Person to Menstruate With

You can be private without expressing disgust. Just step away politely or be honest that you are embarrassed. Neither of these choices shames women.

The reverse is also true. Like I said, just because someone doesn’t want to talk doesn’t mean they’re lame and ashamed.

Compliment girls wearing on their self-expression like red jewelry or watering a Venus flytrap with their menstrual cups.

There are lots of sustainable products now but accessibility is not equal. Not everyone has the water resources to wash reusable products so don’t get preachy.

If you shit on someone else’s choice of birth control, by God I will come for you.

Vote to protect birth control

Do not tell someone they’re gross for using pads and cups that require washing.

If you have found a trustworthy gynecologist, spread the word

If a woman tells you she feels ill, in pain, or like something is wrong believe her

Do not tell her to lose weight or consider therapy. If you do, I will hit you with a fish.

Take hormonal diseases seriously

When someone tells you she has endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, cancer, or PCOS, do not come at her with medical expertise you suddenly think you have.

Offer to buy pads and tampons but make sure to ask what kind — some have allergens.

You can always get someone a glass of water.

If it’s a trans guy you’re talking with, validate his body without treating him like one of the girls. If you don’t know how, just ask.

Do not try to guess if someone is on their period. That’s rude.

I have an alpha period. If we hang out, you will sync to my period and we can all be unhappy together.

If you bleed monthly and are talking to a woman who doesn’t, you aren’t better than her. You define your period. She can define hers.

If someone is confused because she started her period and got a positive pregnancy test, take her to the hospital and defend her with your life. She is miscarrying and needs an ultrasound. If a doctor dismisses her as just having a difficult period, make ape noises and then threaten him with arson.

If after all this you are still angry, DM me his name and I will personally come for revenge. I am pregnant and very powerful.

For that matter, my husband will sort him out for you.

Take black women seriously. Respect that WOC face medical discrimination and gaslighting on the daily.

Advil is valid. Homeopathics are valid. Do not assail your friend with essential oils when she’s asked for a Midol.

If your friend shares some concerning symptoms with you, do not freak her out with an armchair diagnosis.

But you should definitely validate her pain and encourage her to get help. Or even help her get help. Throw her in the car and personally drive her to the doctor.

If your friend confides in you that she has an STI or you are able to guess that she has an STI, be nice to her because if you don’t I will find you and I will yeet you away into the night like Batman.

Educate yourself about periods. Learn the correct anatomical words.

And for God’s sake, you still have to wear a condom.

[just-ur-local-peach]

god’s humor is giving me the most fertile-looking, feminine, breedable body and then making me infertile

[anunexpectedbaggins]

(Not pregnant but TTC so hopefully soon 🤞)

My husband and I have been discussing different baby things like nursery/shower themes and stuff

We think we’ll eventually go with a Winnie the Pooh theme but being who I am I of course need lotr sprinkled in so it might just become more of a “woodland vibes” themed nursery/shower with elements of Pooh and lotr mixed in 😆😆

So what I’m trying to say is I think I need to eventually commission someone to draw the Winnie the Pooh characters as the Fellowship 🥲 that would be so cute

[globlingoober]

The possibility of being infertile is insane.

[lavenderparadise]

after 5.5 years of infertility & 3 losses, we're so excited to announce our triple rainbow baby is due in october!! so many long sleepless nights wondering why me, why did i lose 3 of my babies? why can't i get pregnant again? we got to see our little bean jumping around like crazy, all their fingers and toes formed 🥹 i'm so in love & can't wait to be a mama 💛🌈

[honey-and-fig]

I am IN TREATMENT for secondary infertility because of PCOS like I am actively on MEDICATIONS because I have not been able to get and stay pregnant again please withhold your advice to just “have sex every day” and “just stop worrying and have fun with it!” because if it was THAT EASY I would have my minivan of children already

[onepinkline]

Throughout my infertility journey, I’ve often felt like there was a “lesson” I was meant to be learning. I hated it, it made me angry, but the thought was always there.

I had a realization today that I think I was meant to heal, from many things, but specifically learning communication skills and developing my own sense of self importance that depends solely on me and what I have achieved.

The universe knows how special motherhood will be to me, how important it is to me. I don’t think it was open to letting me begin that chapter until I was ready, because it knew that I would be so disappointed if I had any regrets from my own immature, unhealed actions relating to my journey of motherhood.

I’ve worked hard to heal. Even when it doesn’t feel like it. I know that I’m ready, and maybe the universe does too… either way, I think I’m okay with waiting my turn for now.

[ollies-station]

Hope my mother likes no grandchildren if trump wins! 😍

[ourjourney-tobaby-b]

Welcome to our Fertility Journey

Long story short - our infertility story started after we got married. We started trying to add to our family right away. After some time of zero success, I was officially diagnosed with PCOS. More years go by, and we finally see a specialist. There we discover that my fertility is not the issue, but my husband is. Due to our male factor infertility, and the numbers he has, our only option is IVF. We were hoping to try IUI first as my insurance covers that but not IVF.

I don't personally know anyone who has gone through IVF so I'm hoping this space will allow me to free myself from stress brought on by the pains of what infertility has put on us.

[theglowstickchronicles]

The simultaneous upside and downside of working at a hospital that covers the majority of fertility treatments means that you tend to run into people you know at the clinic.

Nice, because this attending I’ve worked with for 10 years, since she was a resident, and I can smile at each other across the waiting room.

Sad, because this woman I’ve worked with for 10 years and I are sharing this depressing smile across the waiting room.

[am3ya]

If I get told I'll change my mind about kids one more fucking time I'm going to lose it.

I do not want kids, I will not want kids, I do not care that you had kids so young that was your decision not mine you are not me shut the FUCK UP.

[health-bug]

I lost weight in middle school to fit in.

I lost weight in high school to get a boyfriend. 

I lost weight in college to be a thin bride. 

I lost weight after college for an attractive pregnancy.

Now? I'm losing weight for me. So I can do the things I want to do. And that's why it's working. 💪